No one has to be held accountable to your assumptions about a post.
No one has to be held accountable for your emotional responses to how you perceive that post.
Responsibility/accountability is to ones nation, to one's cultural teachings, and to Creator. My community is my nation.
For all I know, our ancestors were at war with one another. Maybe our nations steer cleared of one another to avoid conflict.
Everyone's perception is different. What we are not going to do is allow the use of shame as a coercion tactic to do as someone demands.